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On Heteropessimism – The New Inquiry https://thenewinquiry.com/on-heteropessimism/
Sat 12 Oct 2019 02:43:43 PM CEST archive.org
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Heteropessimism consists of performative disaffiliations with heterosexuality, usually expressed in the form of regret, embarrassment, or hopelessness about straight experience. Heteropessimism generally has a heavy focus on men as the root of the problem. That these disaffiliations are “performative” does not mean that they are insincere but rather that they are rarely accompanied by the actual abandonment of heterosexuality.

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A certain strain of heteropessimism assigns 100 percent of the blame for heterosexuality’s malfunction to men, and has thus become one of the myriad ways in which young women—especially white women—have learned to disclaim our own cruelty and power. Like most lesbians, I have found myself on the receiving end of approximately 100,000 drunk straight women bemoaning their orientation and insisting that it would be “so much easier” to be gay. Sure, it probably would be! That “men are trash” is not something I am personally invested in disputing. Yet in announcing her wish to be gay, the speaker carelessly glosses over the fact that she has chosen to stay attached to heterosexuality.

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Being a Lesbian Doesn't Make Me Your Work Wife - VICE https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/43kx4n/being-a-lesbian-doesnt-make-me-your-work-wife
Sun 08 Sep 2019 10:57:31 PM CEST archive.org
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She was hurt by this, and seemed unable to understand why I was unwilling to continue a quasi-romantic relationship with someone for whom my feelings, my intimacy, my body, was the equivalent of a day at a theme park, a fun and whimsical distraction from the everyday. I didn’t feel scorned or heartbroken; I felt used and objectified. Beth saw no harm in using me to make herself feel good because, in her mind, my feelings and sexuality were somehow less legitimate than her own—which is, of course, the very essence of heteronormativity and homophobia.

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How Instagram Is Failing Queer Sex Workers | Bitch Media https://www.bitchmedia.org/article/sex-workers-queer-meme-instagram-censorship
Sun 04 Aug 2019 07:39:39 PM CEST archive.org
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Ultimately, shadowbanning creates an environment where it’s nearly impossible to build community on these platforms, especially for LGBTQ people and sex workers (and especially for queer sex-working people).

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How Our Cultural Obsession With Platonic 'Girlfriends' Sidelines Queer Women https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/wjk45z/straight-girlfriends-queer-women
Fri 10 Aug 2018 10:23:12 AM CEST archive.org
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We’ve heard a lot about what it is to be a woman who is unsatisfied in herself and her relationships and turns to another woman for those needs; we haven’t heard the stories of the Other Women. Those stories might reframe these affairs away from the question of loneliness, unhappiness, malaise, and need, and towards a question of labor, consumption, and use. It might help us recognize how when straightness is the assumed default, gestures of queer intimacy get muddled, blurred, and erased amidst all that platonic friendships have been stretched to encompass.

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